മഴനൂലുകള്‍ ‍/ Mazhanoolukal

I would love to differentiate two kinds of Love, the True Love and the Real Love. True love its just as a sugar coated pill but the real love its natural, that you can see in your mother's or brother's love . The real love is the best and there we are holding, expecting and possesing, but it will not be practical with most of our friends or relatives, there olny the true love will be work out.

I got the piece of this article from the internet and I think it is a good one to explain what is the true love and real love. And think it is a good advice to your heart broken friend, one way or another it also help to heal the wound. Enjoy the article!

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this "You see this water carefully contained on my hand. It symbolizes Love". This was how I saw it.

As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you.

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a life time to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you truely love, and yet an unconditional caring. But here the love become artificial.

But come to the real love, it will give and expect, advice and order, ask and demand because that is warmed with afection and intimacy. Because it is naural and budding out from the depth of heart not from the surface of skin. That love will make noice, clash and quarel but it never be lost or leave out you. It will be change to true love when you dont want the real or want to be walk away from it. Such a love you can see only one who is whole heartly loving and really caring and can found in your real well wishers mind and there is no seperation or segrigation between two hearts. And there should be a strong thread which is tied together that you cant be break it. That thread simply we call it as blood realtion. Mother, sister, brother, son or daughter they will ask, they will expect, they will order and demand. Only the real love will try to mould and change you, because they want you to be the best. In such kind of relations, when you are try to mould or change one, they will not think "you are controlling or imposing your will on them" beacause they knows you have keener insight and and taking real care in to the direction your life should be taking. In ture love you have to ask if you want someting, but in real love no need to ask they knows your needs and wll be do it for you even not waiting for yuor permission, because they have the right on you. And such love will not congtatulate when you are gaining, just share the happiness with you and take it as the victory of them and feel they are also the part of that gains, but when you are loosing or paining they will be with you and will take it as their pain.

I am taking back you to the above story. Instead of the water, suppose you are holding the crystal clear gum in your hand. As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses, it will spread and stick to your hand will not spill out through any crack. That means one who really loving then you have right to change, reshape and mould by applying the soft pressure.

The conclusion is all that depends on the attitude and the vision. If you are making your love jsut as free flowing water, then it will be spill out but if you can concenrate your love with affection and intimacy then it will be as viscous crystal clear gum that will not spill out as free flowing water. Only the real love can be understand or trust you.

Now its your turn to choose Real Love or True Love as your wish.